Weekly Roundup, Week 12


Hi everyone! Welcome to the 12th weekly roundup, a curation of links for your weekend reading. I hope you had a fulfilling week, and are getting ready to enjoy the Easter weekend.

  • First up from Al Jazeera, Sandra Aguebor; Lady Mechanic.
    I like this. There’s absolutely no reason why a woman cannot be a mechanic, and I’m glad to know that the Lady Mechanic Initiative is happening.
  • Over at The Naked Convos, I wrote an article on Ese Oruru’s abduction, and what it means for Nigeria and our society. TNC is an online community for young Africans, the next generation, and I was stoked to have my article accepted on their site.
  • Marc and Angel give us 29 signs you’re doing just fine. It’s easy to look at yourself and be down in the dumps because you think your life isn’t moving along nicely. Sometimes it’s helpful to have a checklist and realize that you’re actually pretty lucky.
  • From Slate, the reason why I love advice columns so much, and have a special place in my heart for Dear Prudence. An advice seeker writes in:

    Dear Prudence,
    I have been having the same problem with my husband for years. He sets his alarm incredibly early in the morning and mine goes off about two hours later. He gets up with his alarm about two-thirds of the time. Even then, he’s never the first to respond to it. Every single morning for 10 years, I’ve had to shake him awake to shut off his alarm, and sometimes I have to repeat it every 20 minutes until he gets up. I do not fall asleep so readily, so I am often awake in between snoozes. In addition, he is a great sleeper through the night, whereas I toss and turn and wake up for every sound the kids make. When he actually does get up on time, he works very hard on stuff, so I don’t want to insist he “can’t” set his alarm early. Is this just something I have to deal with? He’s a nice guy and a good husband. I just wish our sleeping patterns matched up better.
    —Going Off

    Every single morning. For 10 years. The horror.

    Prudie responds with the wisdom of Solomon:

    I am willing to take a stand here. Those who cannot respond to their own alarm without disturbing their sleep partner have forfeited the right to an early-morning wake-up call. Your husband is using you as an alarm clock. Resign from the job. If he’s not getting up when his alarm goes off, turn it off yourself and go back to sleep. He can get himself out of bed without you. Quit shaking him. If he gets up, he gets up. If he sleeps in, he sleeps in. Frankly, I’m impressed you haven’t murdered him, as I would have long ago.

    I can freely admit that I would have murdered that man in a sleep-deprived haze.

    Read the whole Dear Prudence column.

  • This week, I published two posts on the blog: one bemoaning the rise of antibacterial everything, and the other emphasizing that we should all be feminists (and plugging Chimamanda Adichie’s essay of the same name).
  • I’d like to thank Nwike and Nedoux for informing me that my comment box was broken. I’m happy to live in a world where WPBeginner exists, so I can just type in “403 error”, follow the excellent instructions and fix the problem.

That’s it for this week, go forth and enjoy your weekend. Happy Easter!

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8 thoughts on “Weekly Roundup, Week 12

  1. I almost fell down laughing at the Dear Prudence story, I imagined myself in that situation and I shuddered, I hate it when my sleep is disrupted. The response was epic funny.

    Yeah, TNC is a great platform.

    Thank you for sharing these links.

    1. Prudie’s response was so hilarious. I laughed out loud at the murder part, because I know I would have murder fantasies if I were in the letter writer’s shoes (or bed).

  2. Lol…. I’d try to comment more often. Most times I read people’s comment and hold my thoughts to myself.

    The nudge has to seem one sided if you are going complement each other. In this case, that’s the wife’s strength but the husband’s weakness.

    Hmm…. In your case, then you gotta find a compatible Mr. Right. Or you may have to get him the LARK device as a birthday present. Lmao. Reminds me of the girlfriend that got a water dispenser for valentine from her boyfriend and whr had to rant about it on twitter. Lol, hubby either doesn’t get clean or cold water each time he visits.

    1. Oh, I’m definitely getting a Mr Right who doesn’t need as much sleep as I do, and who will not set ridiculously early alarm clocks. 😀

  3. I can only imagine how horrible It’d be to wake up to someone’s alarm clock every morning for that number of years. However, if that someone is your spouse, it changes everything. Waking up and helping him ignore his alarm clock is sinister(*grins). So, it actually still disturbs your sleep everyday, just now, you decide not to nudge him. Does it solve anything? NO!
    My preferred response would have been for her to discuss this with her husband so that both would find either a solution together, find an alternative or even settle for a common ground.
    Marriage for me is about compatibility, compromise, sacrifice and to complement each other amongst other things. These are some of the values we are fast losing. So this man wakes up two-thirds of the time with your loving nudge and does ‘ very hard work on stuff ‘ and you are willing to forfeit all that? OK, let’s just say this hard work is work related and adds to his productivity and invariably to his income. Are you still willing to get disturbed every night but not support this your husby with that loving nudge?
    Ok, I think I’m now preaching.

    A quick Google search revealed this device, LARK, that offers a silent alarm system that you kinda wear on your wrist and vibrates to wake you up while your partner is not disturbed. There’s also the LUMI mask that blocks out light at night but illuminates to wake you up later.
    Does this solve most(if not all) of her problems? YES!!
    Even at this, in case you still happen to roll over and he’s not yet awake PLEASE, still give him that loving nudge. You two are meant to complement each other and be each others STRENGTH in your respective WEAKNESSES.

    1. Wow. You should comment more often. It’s true what you say about compromise and complementing each other.

      Better living through technology- I love it. The LARK device sounds like it would be best for their situation.

      Absolutely, the two need to discuss the sleeping arrangements and come too an agreement that works for them.

      The loving nudge is one-sided o. What if my weakness is having my sleep interrupted? 😀 Because that’s actually a big weakness of mine.

  4. Oh….I get a mention. You welcome.

    I have to say… I don’t agree with Dear Prudence. Something in the way we choose to handle situations in our generation is just not right. I guess that is a discussion for another day.

    1. 😀
      You don’t agree? Is it fair for her to be awakened every day, for 10 years, because her husband cannot wake up to his own alarm clock? Basically making her the alarm clock.

      In final year, my roommate would set her alarm clock for an ungodly hour, to wake up and study. She usually slept right through the alarm. Instead, I would be forced awake, and have to get out of bed and walk over to her bedside to turn off the alarm. I used to shake her awake after turning off the alarm, then after a while, I just fantasized about smashing the alarm clock on her head. I can’t imagine going through that for 10 years.

      It’s not about husband or wife, it’s about one human being deciding that their needs are greater than those of the other person sharing their space.

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